1. Create a family mission statement. Include your family's values, goals, actions, activities, and common visions.
2. Share your family's history. This was the number 1 predictor of children's emotional well-being. Retelling stories, sharing pictures, remembering challenges your family overcame are powerful for children to know that perseverence is important and normalizing the ups and downs families have.
3. Hold weekly family meetings. All "board members" and "shareholders" should be present and accounted for! All have a vested stake in the positive outcome of the family. Discuss what went well and what didn't go well for the week. Identify what areas to work more on. Make a rule that no one can get in trouble for speaking their mind during this meeting.
4. How to 'fight right'. Teach your children to get away from the situation and look at it from an outside perspective. Negotiation and problem solving methods are taught and children have a say in the solution.
5. Have family dinners together anytime. Meals together are the number one predictor in academic success and fewer behavioral problems. It also was the most influential in lower rates of drug and alcohol use, eating disorders,
teen pregnancy, smoking and suicide. Family dinners were more important that team sports, religious services, time in school, or studying.
6. Just try... Actively invest in improving family connections. Work towards the goal of getting your children to talk to you. Actively explore your children's interests and share with them about your day and your life.
These simple 6 steps can improve your child's self-esteem and improve their chances to be successful in their employment and relationships!